Derek talks about making every day Christmas…what does that mean exactly, what does that look like in our lives? In the past I have looked at Christmas as a challenging time for a food program, when I was in Weight Watchers they talked about this a lot, so that eating during the holidays became a bag of tricks – as in: take YOUR food with you to Christmas dinners, substitute diet 7-up for a wine spritzer, measure your portions by making a fist, yada, yada. So much focus was put on denial and tricking your mind into thinking you weren’t denying yourself. I now see the negative underlying thought process that went on in this…and I thought I was a positive thinker then…oh, lordy! I was told and kept telling myself that I was doing this for me but I really just wanted to be that size 10 again and get the compliments from people, be noticed, be approved of, etc. And when that came, as it did, I always wondered why it didn’t feel as good as I wanted it to, why I still felt empty, like it didn’t fill me up. I see now it was all about…I was all about…others approval, people would love me if I looked a certain way. I wanted to be loved and other people were where I thought, where I was told, love came from, outside of myself. Derek helped me to see that love comes only from within, from loving yourself, approving of yourself, accepting yourself as you are right now, not in the future when you’ve reached some goal. It is the journey, not the destination. Of course, because I know it and work with it doesn’t mean I have mastered it…yet…wouldn’t that be nice?
I understood before that all love comes from within, but I didn’t have a physical teacher that helped me to understand that I am responsible for loving myself, and for thinking loving thoughts about myself, and how to bring love for myself into my heart fully so I really felt it. I had heard the words before: we create our reality, thoughts are things, to think is to create…and I thought this was all about manifesting outer things, not inner. Derek talks about how the battle used to be on the outside, now it is on the inside. So BEing the Spirit of Christmas is living it every moment of our lives. We are either BEing love or we are not. We are either BEing happy or we are not. We are either BEing truth, or we are not. Every choice is a choice for loving ourselves or not loving ourselves. Is eating that piece of chocolate loving yourself? Sometimes it is, and sometimes it is not. For myself, what I looked at is, am I eating it with desire or attachment…because it is chocolate, or it is forbidden fruit, or it is a parents reward for “good” behavior, or it is acceptable food at a function, etc., or am I eating it because I am loving myself by having it. Am I buying into an old belief system, or creating a new reality of love for myself. Recently I saw my different attachments to food, not only as to whether it was on the food program or not, but even to the way my chicken was cooked…haha, funny isn’t it? And yet on the other hand, I had no attachment to a truffle I was offered, and found it interesting to eat a food that I always thought was a treat and bad for me, then eat it without any attachment to those concepts, and just experience the taste alone. I have found myself thinking more about what I am putting in my mouth and why I am putting it there, than the actual food itself. I find myself choosing food, which has always had family-love-guilt- pleasure-reward-nurturing attached to it, and then eating it without attaching anything to it. I really began to see what I ate with love, and what I ate wanting love from others.
BEing the Spirit of Christmas is really about BEing the love that’s in your heart and sharing that love with others with no thought of return. That’s the Spirit of Christmas, the true spirit of Christmas, that’s what Christ was about, he loved himself so much and recognized he was God that he then could share that love with the world so they would then know they were God too. BEing the Spirit of Christmas is loving yourself, in your life, every minute of every day. A lot to live up to? Yes, of course, if life wasn’t a challenge what fun would it be? Judgement goes when truth flows, the truth of recognizing who you are and loving you with all of your, as Derek calls them, “bobbily and wobbily bits”, and knowing that is not the truth of who you are, the truth lies in the love in your heart. So don’t tell yourself not to eat this or that this Christmas, instead ask yourself why you are eating it, and are you loving you more in the process. Give yourself the gift of love thru food, not with it. Know sometimes you will make choices based on love and sometimes you will make choices based on old belief systems, the great thing about this is that there is no failure, only feedback, every choice brings us feedback and insights into where we are at and why we are there, and between the where and the why is how we recognize who or what is running our life…and making those choices.
Enjoy a Merry Christmas, and my wish for you is that all your dreams come true this beautiful New Year. Please join Derek and all of us at Creacon in his Winter Solstice meditation on December 21st as we usher in the new reality of love and the new age of a world filled with love and peace..
A New Year blessing for YOU:
May the blessings of God be upon you, May His peace abide with you, May Her presence illuminate your heart, Now and forever more. Shanti, shanti, shanti.
Peace be with you. Many Blessings!
Love Love Love
Sandra Grey Wolf http://www.PremaAmrtha.com
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